1.- Free yourself from them as fast as you can, reprogram your mindset.
2.- There are no old paradigms that help, they are barriers for our life - @chbartist
On this blog I'm going to talk about one that is in reference to money.
We all have heard that money and wealth are for those without character.
Here are other things we've heard
- Rich people achieve things because they step on others people heads.
- Money is the illness of the world
- Why money, if you can die tomorrow?
- What's important is health, not money
- Rich people are not good people
I think I could list many more phrases we've all heard since we were very young, and they have shaped the way we perceive money, and how we see people who have had success in life.
But let's break this down:
This happens because when we see the scandals, the corruption, or something that the media does is to focus on that message. All of the sudden the message becomes all rich people are dishonest and that is why they are rich.
I can guarantee you this is not the case at all.
Along my life I've met many people with money, and I can tell you that the majority have built their fortune through hard work, not with dishonesty, but they get to pay for the fame of the ones that act bad.
I also happen to know many people with money that are very altruistic, they donate to many important causes, but that never makes the news, because that does not sell papers. Even myself, I've donated a lot of money over the years to friends and humanitarian causes, but there is no point in me listing them all.
One of the things I enjoyed doing was to pay for someone else's supermarket, seeing people who needed to get groceries for their family, and even offering to add more things to their cart. But, of course, would those actions ever make the news? Of course not.
In other words, that type of thing would never be picked up by the media and that is just how the world works, and I can tell you many wealthy people do even more, but they go around promoting themselves.
When it comes to money, you pretty much have to know how much is important to you, and how much you need to get to where you want to be.
I know people who believe they need a Ferrari in their garage to be happy. I also know people who need to show off what they have in order to feel accomplished. I've even met people who would constantly swap cars to try to cause jealousy among their neighbors, and mind you, they don't even like each other. That makes absolutely no sense to me.
But I also know a group of people who have a very simple life by comparison. I like to live my life in that way, in other words, I know how much I need to live, and those who know me, know that I live in a simple way by comparison. I don't buy what I don't need. The money I make is much more than I need to live, and I consider it to be a bonus for a life well lived, all those times when I put in 16 hour days finally paid off. As they say, money doesn't come easy and I also started from zero and know how to value my time.
Going back to paradigms, let's try a little exercise so that you can understand well what I'm trying to say regarding changing your mindset, then we can revisit some of the things I've been talking about.
Rich people achieve things because they step on others people heads.
I already explained how this works, it's basically the media selling the negative ideas, and generalizing is not healthy or fair.
Money is the illness of the world
This could possibly be true, but is it practical to think like this when money makes part of our life at all times?
Why money, if you can die tomorrow?
This is one of the most mediocre thoughts that I can hear someone adopt, and because that is how murphy's law works, sometimes these type of people are the ones that live the most. Of course, without money until they are 100 years old.
What's important is health, not money
I can agree with this one 100% but we are all going to get old, and in a country like mine, imagine getting old or having a terrible disease and not having the means to pay for it. Then we will see the importance of money. It's important to have both things, healthy and money so that you can keep your health, have access to even improve it.
Rich people are not good people
You will never make any money if you think like this, your mindset is literally working against you. If you hate people that are successful, then you will never want to be part of the group that is hated.
"You will never want to become, those who you hate"
Money corrupts people
This one is possibly the most important one you must delete from your mind, reprogram your mindset completely.
Let me tell you what I've learned along my journey, dealing with thousands of people.
"Money does not corrupt or change people, it simply magnifies that which they were to begin with"
What I'm trying to say is very simple: A person that was raised with good ethics, someone who is honest and fair, he will remain so poor or rich, but when he has money he will have the ability to do more good, and they are possibly those who I was referring to, sharing their wealth with others on my previous examples. If you are poor, but have the right character, work hard to accumulate your wealth, because that is not going to change you, the opposite, it's going to help you be more generous.
On the other hand, people who are dishonest, if they make money, What happens? Money once again magnifies that which they were, they simply become more greedy and more insufferable.
As it were, this is a paradigm you must break in your life, but to end I'm going to leave you with a phrase that I always keep in my mind at all times:
"Money simply allows us to buy comfort, and something even more important; good times"
And for me this, the good times, a dinner, a trip, a fun get together with people that I care about, is wealth, accumulating good memories.
But let's not forget, to this we have to add what I've been talking about over and over; having the right people to share your life with. I've said that many times.
I want my friends to do well financially too so they can achieve all their goals in life and be independent, you know why?
"What good does it do to be drinking coconut water in the Bahamas by myself?"
I think this about sums it all up....
A big hug to all of you Steemians