While leading a company and unearthing the path to lead us on I also find some best paths for myself as a person.
Finding the best path for myself often comes from recognizing what I might call “bumpers” like we see in bowling alleys.
Only that in life there are no bumpers, rather a person needs to develop a sense for where the edges of the lane really are and the bumpers exist for me invisibly.
I have two really bad bumpers I’ve begun paying attention to.
One is interrupting. I pride myself on listening well. However, I don’t always. And I’ve lately understood a very clear bumper for myself. Interrupting another person.
If I interrupt someone into means I’m trying too hard to get my message across.
From there I may need to set back and re evaluate how I’m approaching things.
My second bumper though I do not do it often, I believe, is bad language. If I curse over something, I am stressed. And though I am often smooth and calm, the river in me runs deep. Cursing is an indication something is off underneath, and I need to step back to understand how to fix the issue there.
Do you have bumpers?
— Capt. Scott